When we want to know how much someone loves us we always make the mistake of measuring simply by how they make us feel, or how overt they are about the comportments that we think represent their feelings toward us. The truth is that it's really impossible to feel or know exactly how someone else experiences their relationship with us emotionally, and while that's an interesting thing, what we do need is that so often in our most intimate relationships, we overlook, disregard, and take for granted what are otherwise gestures and symbols of real, honest, deep, genuine love.
Constantly in romantic relationships, we overestimate how much people love us. We do this as a sort of self-preservation. We Think that we can push their buttons more farther or we delude ourselves into believing someone is far more invested than they are simply because the alternative is too heartbreaking to bear. While all of this ultimately leads to dysfunction and heartbreak, there's another side of the coin: what happens when we underestimate someone's love, just because we don't "speak" their love language.
There's not one "right" or exact formula to be able to understand just how much someone loves you, there are definitely some habits and signals that they genuinely care about you, more than you can imagine. So maybe, there's more love in your life than you realize.
THEY AREN'T INCONVENIENCED BY YOUR FEELINGS
When you've been extra complain, and maybe in a bad mood for a few days in a row at least. Yet, your significant other doesn't really see it that way, nor are they holding it against you. Off curse, you had a bad nights, but they aren't inconvenienced by your normal, natural range of emotions and experiences.
YOU TRUST THEM
You don't feel like you have to hide that you're out of money or the fact that hair does in fact grow in places where you like to pretend it doesn't or that you don't always like how you look, also you feel very comfortable to share every part of your life no matter how messy or human it is That's what it means to trust someone.
THEY'RE LOYAL TO YOU
It's not that they say they'll be loyal to you, but that they actually are. You could never dream of them being unfaithful or speaking ill of you behind your back â€” yet you don't realize what a rarity and privilege it is.
THEY WANT TO CHANGE FOR YOU
While you can't change anybody (nor can you expect them to change because you want them to), when someone really loves you, they usually want to change themselves, to be the best possible version of themselves, to be better for you.
THEY WANT TO COMMIT, AND COMMIT FOR GOOD
They realize that they don't have to give up their personal freedom or happiness or autonomy for a relationship but even if they did, you're worth it.
THEY GO OUT OF THEIR WAY TO DO SMALL THINGS FOR YOU EACH DAY
That's mean that they think that love is, indeed, in the little things, for example picking up your coffee or straighten up your apartment after you've fallen asleep, or even grab the bill for your pizza slice or rubdown your neck when it hurts. .
IT'S NOT THAT THEY DON'T HOLD ANYTHING AGAINST YOU BUT THAT THEY DON'T EVEN JUDGE YOU IN THE FIRST PLACE
They're not out for blood. They don't roll their eyes at your fourth burrito run of the week or your funny taste in music or not washing your hair for two days too long.
THEY'RE ALWAYS HAPPY WHEN THEY'RE AROUND YOU
You may not realize it, but all the cheesy, typical things are true: their face lights up with they're around you, they want to spend all of their time with you, and they love you, really no matter what because you make them smile and they feel happy when they are with you.